At first glance, an article about the difference in goals for men and women in their internet dating adventures may seem odd. If everyone involved is serious about expanding their relationship, shouldn't men and women look for the same thing? Well, even if the end game goals are the same the interaction between men and women is different.
Men have many different goals than women do. The most obvious would be getting sex. Had to put this one first, did I? Sorry, but I did. Even if the guy in question is really, honestly looking for a serious relationship, his focus is still going to be a lot more on sex than a woman's is. He'll be looking more deeply for a sexual connection (and especially for sexual cues) than a woman would be. Which will change how he behaves towards her, and the vibe he gives off during the date.
Men also look to having more fun. Everybody hopes to have fun on a date. But most guys don't want a date to feel like a serious experience. For most men, dates should be about laughing and sharing a good time. After physical attractiveness and attraction, the first thing a man is going to look for is a woman who's fun to be with. It'll be one of his main goals for the first date when you a man on an internet dating site.
Men do their absolute best to try and win your interest. This makes most dating environments really competitive. So whether or not a man is interested in dating a woman, he wants to make sure that she is interested in him.
Women have completely different goals. Attraction coupled with liking. Women care about sex, of course, just like men do. And some women go on a date looking to find a sexual partner. But when a woman goes on a date, she generally looks at the whole package with a very keen eye. Is he both physically attractive and mentally attractive? Does he bring all of the things she's looking for in a partner to the table? Of course, men care about finding all of this in a woman, as well. But men tend to be more relaxed about the process-- one or the other is generally enough for them. Most women, however, need both to want to take the relationship to the next step.
Women think a lot farther ahead than men do. They take dating extremely seriously. Even if you have a fun time and make her laugh, it does not always mean the date was a success.
Women aim to develop a friendship. While it is obvious both sexes can be friends with each other, women are much more direct on the friendship portion of dating. Men see dates as something more than friendship, while women see men as potential friends.
With internet dating, everybody is looking for something a little bit different from that first date. It's not easily to generalize and say that "women wish to accomplish this" and "men wish to accomplish that." The truth is, both men and women share all the goals in this article. But knowing which goals the person you're dating is likely to give priority can help you to understand better how he or she interacts with you. And help you to prioritize what you should be looking for from them.
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